Life has trigger events which causes ones’ brains to go off track sometimes. For me, it is a recent breakup with J. The relationship lasted all of 6 months and then came to a very amicable and respectable ending. I have only ever had good breakups. I actually don’t recall ever yelling or even raising my voice with my ex’s. Maybe it’s because I can often get my point across without resorting to yelling/arguing. But yes, this recent event has been making me act a little less rationally than I usually do.
I have been looking up information about self-soothing and how to make myself feel better when those gloomy feeling settle in. I was applauded by a good friend for not finding a rebound relationship. I was tempted, but I was worried that would take me down a different type of rabbit hole in itself. And I avoid hurting others as much as possible.
Breakups are funny. Here is a person with whom you interacted on a daily basis and shared in the exciting and mundane aspects of life. And then poof, they’re gone. You are no longer allowed to communicate with that person. The rope is severed. I know this isn’t always the case for all relationships but I have always been a big advocate of the NC rule. I’m not going to say that I haven’t broken this rule before but I think it keeps me sane and lets me recover as speedily as possible.
The withdrawal symptoms have been hitting me hard though. And I’m not really sure how to deal with them besides straight-up distraction.
Time to go visit the Reddit breakup section and tell myself that things could have been much worse.